Chassidus on Marriage · Part 1 of 4 · 5:14

The Days Leading Up

Why the weeks before the chasunah are “yakar mikol yakar,” more precious than anything, and how to prepare for them.

A marriage is a binyan adei ad, so it needs spiritual plans before flowers and photographs.
More Torah, especially Chitas and Chassidus, more tefillah, tzedakah and hiddur mitzvos, and a real cheshbon hanefesh.
Learning the halachos of a Jewish home together, with teachers of Anash.
The gifts that start a home: a Shas and Chassidishe seforim meant to be worn out, a pushka, candlesticks and a tallis.
The aufruf, the week apart, and why this world is the erusin and the days of Moshiach the nisuin.

Review questions

Why does our Rebbe call the time before the chasunah “yakar mikol yakar”?
Because what the chosson and kallah prepare in those days can shape their entire life together (Igros Kodesh vol. 14 p. 82).
What does the mashal of a building teach about preparing for marriage?
Before the first brick, a building needs plans, foundations and materials. A marriage is a binyan adei ad, an everlasting edifice, so it needs spiritual plans first (Igros Kodesh vol. 16 p. 40).
What are the main areas of spiritual preparation?
More Torah, especially Chitas and Chassidus; more heartfelt tefillah; more tzedakah; hiddur mitzvos; and teshuvah with a real cheshbon hanefesh.
Why is the chosson called to the Torah at the aufruf?
Before building a world of their own, one first looks into the Torah, the way Hashem looked into the Torah and created the world.

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